Wifey’s duty

“Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and He is the savior of the body Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.” Ephesians 5:22-24

"Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as it is fit in the Lord." Colosians 3:18

"Likewise, ye wives, [be] in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation (life) of the wives;" 1 Peter 3:1

"That they (older women) may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, [To be] discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed." Titus 2

(Before anyone says we are not held to this anymore- that it is an archaic left over from the ancient days- let me point out that every one of these settings of scripture tells the hubby to love his wife sacrificially. Also, note the above scripture in Titus. If a woman is no longer required to obey her hubby and be a keeper at home, she is also no longer required to love him or the children, be discreet, chaste, or good. You can't take one word out and throw it away. You have throw the whole book out.)

Can you imagine the church daring to tell God “I think you are wrong and we should do things my way!” or “What about my rights? When do I get to do what I want?”

This is how many women treat their hubbies. God says to submit yourself to your hubby just like the church submits to God. This means that if you are not obeying hubby you are also disobeying God. Hubby is the boss in the family by Dvine appointment. It doesn’t matter if he is good at it or not, he is still the boss. And doing what he says only when you think he is right is not obeying, it is agreeing.

To obey, we must do what he wants cheerfully and promptly even when we think he is wrong. God will reward us for that obedience, even when our hubbies are wrong. We are not commanded to bear the burden of making the right decisions, just the burden of obeying.
This is actually very freeing and empowering. When you realize that God is telling us to honor Him by honoring hubby, we are no longer dependent on deciding whether hubby is right or in a good enough mood or fair or smart enough for us to go along with. We can choose to cheerfully obey God by cheerfully obeying and honoring hubby. We are no longer dependent on another human being for our mood and obedience to God.

Saying a woman should obey her hubby is in no way saying she is less inteligent. No one would dare to say the vice- president was less intellegent than the president just because he wasn’t the head guy. Nor would anyone say the secretary of a business is less inteligent than her boss. She just has a different job to do. In the same way, a wife is no less inteligent or valuble than hubby. She just has a different job to do. Much like the major’s job in the army is to advise and assist the general, or the manager’s job is to advise and assist the owner, a wife’s job is to advise and assist her husband.

When God made woman, He made her to be a helper to the man. She is to help her husband complete the assignments God has given him. If God blesses them with children, He has called them to raise spiritual warriors for Him. If God calls hubby to be a truck driver, He has called wifey to be a truck-driver’s wife. If He calls hubby to pastor, wifey is called to be a pastor’s wife. They are to work together as a team- hubby leading and wifey helping- to achieve the goals God has set before them.

Now, back to my statement; “Can you imagine the church daring to tell God “I think you are wrong and we should do things my way!” Did you know the church often does this?

Just like we women get our eyes off of what we are really called to do (submit to and help hubby) the church often gets its eyes off of its calling (submit to and help God.)

Most churches today have Sunday School programs, for example. If you point out that such programs are not biblical, that in fact, when corporate worship is mentioned in the Bible, it is the entire family worshiping together as one unit, they look at you like you are from a different planet. They then tell you of all the successful Sunday School programs they know of and how important it is to teach the children of the new convert or unsaved.

I agree it is important to do these things, just like it is important to clothe my children. But if I dress my children in the way that displeases my hubby, I am not doing my job. I am disobeying. When the church uses unbiblical means to teach the children who the Bible clearly tells parents to teach, we are in disobedience, no matter what our good intentions are.

Our churches should focus on doing things God’s way, not “the business way” or “the way it has always been done” or “the way we think it should be.” It is not our job to increase the church at any means. We (the church) are to love God (our Heavenly Hubby) and obey Him. He will send the increase.

This works the same way that it does in the natural family. If the wife wants to increase the family (she wants a baby), she doesn’t go out petitioning the neighborhood, or meditate on baby clothes. She loves on her hubby.

If we want to grow our churches, the primary step should be to love on our Hubby in Heaven, God. He will send the increase. Now again, I am not saying we shouldn’t go door to door or any of the other things that have been tried in church evangelism. Sometimes God tells us to do these things. And when He does, He will reward our obedience. But we shouldn’t be focusing on “programs” to increase the church like businesses do to increase customers. We should simply be obedient to God and be loving on Him.